It’s the Brides day, but the Groom has a say too!
By: Brittany Allen
As many know, The Wedding Planning & Wedding Day is known to be all about the Bride. Well those days are over. The Groom has a say and most are not afraid to say it! Working with different couples you discover that there are different types of Groom Behavior‘s that will be expressed. You have the “It’s Her Day Groom“, “I only have one request Groom“, and the “I’m getting married too Groom.” These type of Groom behaviors you will see throughout the planning process. These behavior characteristics do not happen all at once, but they will show up!
Let’s start with the “It’s her day Groom”. This kind of Groom is the kind that really sits back and allows the Bride to choose whatever she likes and the Groom tends to just nod every now and then. This kind of Groom does have a preference however see’s all the details as overwhelming and rather allow the Bride & her planner or friends do what is considered by the Groom as the ‘fun-girly stuff”. This kind of Groom depending on the Bride can be a good or bad thing.
The “I only have one request Groom” is the Groom that wants total control of only one aspect of the wedding planning process. For most Groom’s it’s the music or his attire, although some have a preferred color that must be used, etc. The Groom makes it known from the beginning that this is what he wants and how he wants! He shows up when it’s time to make that important decision and you find that the Bride is so happy that her Groom is participating she doesn’t complain about his choice.
The last type of Groom behavior is the “I’m getting married too Groom”. This Groom tends to show up roughly a month before the Wedding Day. He is the most hands on during this month. This is where you will more than likely hear the most questions of concern and request from the Groom. Beware, he can turn into a Groomzilla..lol, yes they have their moments too! This Groom shows emotion of excitement, fear, and now realizes that he is getting married too! The Bride likes this Groom as well because he really becomes hands on, however some Groom’s do the opposite and like to disappear the last week.
All of the behaviors are expressed at one point or another within the planning process. From my experience I have seen the Groom behavior in the order of: “I only have one request”, It’s her day”, “I’m getting married too.” There is no correct order, because it all depends on the Bride & Groom, but be ready because there is a high chance you will experience all of these Groom’s behaviors in one wedding planning experience. So remember as much as it is all about the Bride, the Groom has a say too!
Sincerely,
Brittany Allen, Owner & Executive Planner
Beautiful Beyond Dreams, LLC
Very insightful. In my business, the groom often comes to the cake tasting and doesn't say a word.
ReplyDeleteIts so funny, because as a photographer.. ive seen this. Ive had the couple where the groom had full say over photography.... other grooms that sit back and listen and then the groom that asks all the questions. I find the grooms to be just as interested as the brides when it comes to their photos,though, for the most part.
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